i don't think anyone could ever replace you. even the ex-girlfriend didn't. you are the best friend, the girl he's been hanging out with is just a girl he met. nothing can ever replace the kind of bond or relationship you guys have. dont worry too much, you're not gonna lose him. :))

Yeah one of my bffs was a guy named Iggy. I never wanted him as more than a friend, but when he got a girlfriend, he was obsessedd. The first few weeks we would talk tons about her, and he'd send me things she'd said to analyze and whatnot, but eventually he just disappeared. I didn't see him for a month and we barely talked at all. He didn't notice the difference since he was obviously distracted but ecstatic to be with her all the time. He visits me and still talks to me now about his problems, but we're clearly no longer bffs. He's told me bluntly that he wants to be with her over any other person, and any moment he can spend with her, he does.

Then again, he's leaving for MIT while she's staying in Michigan next fall, and no doubt he'll turn to me once they break up. -shrug-

@karmaprincesa@xanga - See, that's the thing. I do give him space, and plenty of it. We rarely hang out during the week, when we talk on the phone it's because he calls me (not always, but 9 times out of 10, he'll be the one calling). I'm not being clingy, in any way. I never get mad at him when he ditches me for somebody else, and I pretty much let him do his own thing. I normally don't get jealous over anybody he hangs out with and he has plenty of space to come and go as he pleases. I'm making it sound like I don't put in effort, but that's not the case, I do. He just is more intense about it than me... he gets jealous when I hang out with other people more often than him, he gets mad if I don't call one day, he gets upset if there's another guy in my life that he doesn't know about. When I was almost in a relationship with another guy, he's the one that called me upset saying he thought this guy was going to take up all my time and he would never hear from me again and that he didn't want to lose me. We're extremely close, but we both have a reasonable amount of space. I don't think space is our issue.

I know most best friends give their attention to their significant others over their best friends, but we have some kind of weird relationship. He doesn't want me to give all my time to a guy, he wants that guy to have to share me. I put up with that, and it doesn't really bother me. I don't see what's so bad about hanging out with my best friend one night as opposed to always focusing on my boyfriend. I love my best friend, and I would choose him over another guy. I don't actually necessarily expect him to do the same for me though, even though he has already said he would, but I would never ask him to do that for me... and now I fear that he won't. I can't complain, I just said I wouldn't ask him to give up a relationship for me, but being replaced is still one of the worst feelings.

I know that feeling. I so hate it. You've spent like all this time with your friend & suddenly when they meet their gf/bf, they spend all of their time with them. I've had that, but really...you won't be replaced. Like pumpkin said...you can't be replaced. You've always been there for him & he will always come back to you. Real friends don't let their friends go. I read this quote on someone's Hi5 site. It said sth like "A friend has trylu shown himself a friend, if he doesn't forget you when they met someone special who they spend all their time with" or something like that. You have 2 excuse me cuz it was in Dutch lol. But really, don't worry about it. Just be happy for him & be there for him like u have always been

My apologies if I come off sounding offensive, but please note that I don't have ill intentions (otherwise I wouldn't be commenting in the first place). I am a blunt person, and that's just how I talk. =)

Anyways, best of luck with you and your best friend... and the boy you are interested in!